Archive for April, 2009

Debates – agreeing to disagree?

April 18, 2009 Leave a comment

I was having a discussion with a friend. The discussion turned into a debate which got rather heated and I suggested that we agree to disagree but he refused. He got annoyed and yelled at me. I calmly told him that I would speak to him when he has calmed down and as I walked away, he said that I lacked passion.  Later on when he had calmed down he explained that his reason for saying that was that he expected me to shout back at him and make my point because doing that shows passion. I did not know what to say to that because his explanation did not make sense to me.  Once a debate gets to the point where people are shouting at each other, it is no longer a debate. It becomes an argument.

When I’m having a debate and it gets heated, then that’s a sign that it’s time to stop so I agree to disagree.   Having a debate is not about forcing my views on the opposing side or the opposing side forcing their views on me. It’s about explaining why we have the views that we do on a particular topic.  Shouting does not makes one’s point any more valid. In my opinion, people who start shouting during a debate are either trying to detract from the fact that they have no valid points to support their stance or they are immature and have no business entering a debate with anyone.


Women in management

April 11, 2009 Leave a comment

When I first started out in my career, there were very few female managers and I used to think it would be nice if there were more women in management because women tend to be more understanding towards sensitive issues. I think I may have been wrong.

I have now had the opportunity to work with managers of both genders and while the men have been good to work with, I wish I could say the same for the female managers. Two female managers have been excellent (as in firm, but fair), but many of the others have been the opposite. I have had witnessed many displays of  inappropriate behaviour from some female managers, from cattiness to going all out to destroy someone’s career. Being a woman, I find this very disturbing.  I don’t fancy having my career destroyed by a woman just because she has the power to do so.